Same-Sex Attractiion

"But now, Lord, what do I look for?
My hope is in you."

Psalm 39:7 (NIV)

In our culture, sexuality has become equated with our identity in ways like never before. Language that is used says that the person “is” his or her sexual orientation. As Christians, we believe our identity rests solely in whom we are in Christ – His chosen, saved, and redeemed people.

As a result of the American culture’s shift toward equating one’s sexuality with one’s identity, a Christian who experiences same-sex attraction often endures overwhelming confusion and pain due to a sense of being internally divided against oneself. Many Christians who experience same-sex attraction make no attempt to act on these feelings, but they believe that the feelings themselves are sinful and prohibit them from having a relationship with God. Other Christians, believing the feelings are unavoidable, act on them. Regardless of which category someone finds himself or herself in, no one chooses to feel attracted to someone of the same sex. However, we all choose how we will respond to sexual feelings and desires. Someone who is attracted to a person of the same sex is not necessarily sinning, but someone who lusts over, fantasizes about, or acts in sexual ways is venturing down a sinful path. Scripture says, "But each person is tempted when he is lured and enticed by his own desire. Then desire when it has conceived gives birth to sin; and sin when it is full grown brings forth death" (James 1:14-15, ESV). In other words, temptation leads to sin, but temptation is not sin.

However you arrived at these feelings, our desire is to help you learn to deal with them in a Christ-like manner. We strive to support you as you wrestle with these issues and deepen your relationship with the Lord. As Christians, we often use 1 Corinthians 6:9-11 to provide Biblical support for why homosexuality is a sin. Sometimes the focus on these verses is on the sin of homosexuality, almost to the exclusion of the other sins that are referenced here. Our counselors believe that acting upon homosexual attraction is sinful. We also believe that acting upon homosexual attraction is no more or less sinful than any other behavior that the Lord asks us to confess and repent of in His Word. In Christ, we are sanctified, and we know that sanctification is a lifelong process. This means that working through any sin struggle will be a long process that requires the grace and Truth of Jesus Christ and the daily help of His Spirit.

Additionally, other believers can also help us participate in the Lord’s sanctification of us. Thus, we want you to know that, if you are struggling with same-sex attraction, CU Counseling Services offers individual, confidential counseling. We recognize the importance of having someone in whom you can trust so that you can share openly and honestly. For those who would benefit from the support and accountability that a group would offer, we refer students to a group that meets off campus but is located in the immediate area. This group is led by competent Christian counselors who have years of experience helping men and women live in Christ-honoring ways as they seek to honor Him with their sexuality.

Website Resources

Cedarville University's Resources Regarding Gender Identity and Human Sexuality

This is a compilation of various resources that Cedarville put together in response to allowing Soulforce, a pro-gay Christian organization, to come to campus in 2007.

The Institute for the Study of Sexual Identity

“The mission of ISSI is to further our understanding of sexual identity, its development and synthesis, and to be a resource to students in training and those in the community who are stakeholders in these discussions. We do this through research, training, and clinical services/consultations.”from ISII's website

Pure Intimacy

“Pure Intimacy is an online ministry of Focus of the Family devoted to the biblical truth that human sexuality flows from the image of God that we bear as male and female and is a good gift from God. This wonderful, powerful and life-giving gift has been marred by our sinfulness, by an enemy who comes to kill, steal and destroy, and by a world system that twists and distorts the goodness and purpose of sexuality. We see around us so many ways that human sexuality can be misused, misguided and misdirected – pornography, sexual abuse, addiction, infidelity, divorce and homosexuality are just some examples of broken sexuality in us and in our relationships.”from Pure Intimacy's website

Focus on the Family: Sexual Identity

“We believe that God created humans in His image, intentionally male and female, each bringing unique and complementary qualities to sexuality and relationships. Sexuality is a glorious gift from God to be offered back to Him either in marriage for procreation, union and mutual delight or in celibacy for undivided devotion to Christ. Christians are called to proclaim the truth and beauty of God's design and the redemption of sexual brokenness in our lives and culture through Jesus Christ.”from Focus on the Family's website

OneByOne

“OneByOne's mission is to educate and equip the church to minister the transforming grace and power of Jesus Christ to those in conflict with their sexuality. OneByOne's goal is therefore two-fold: (1) to serve as a resource for educational material; and (2) to help create and/or support local ministries to those struggling with sexual brokenness, including but not limited to homosexuality. OneByOne representatives are available to provide seminars and workshops for church leaders and/or members who want to learn how to minister Christ's compassion without compromising Christ's standards.”from OneByOne's Website

Books/Articles

(1991) Desires in Conflict: Hope for Men Who Struggle with Sexual Identity by Joe Dallas. Eugene, OR: Harvest House Publishers.

This book addresses those Christian men who experience same-sex attraction and are seeking to live a Christ-honoring life.

(2003) The Game Plan: The Men's 30-Day Strategy for Attaining Sexual Integrity by Joe Dallas. Eugene, OR: Harvest House Publishers.

Dallas writes about the struggles many men have with pornography and other sexual sins. In the book, he goes beyond giving “don’t do this; do that” advise to men. Dallas extends his insight into helping readers develop and live out an internal understanding of how to practice sexual stewardship that honors Christ.

(2008) The Heart of Female Same Sex Attraction by Janelle Hallman. Downer's Grove, IL: Intervarsity Press.

Hallman’s book focuses on women who struggle with same-sex attraction and offers insight for those Christian women looking to live a Christ-honoring life in light of their struggles.

(2003) Restoring sexual identity: Hope for women who struggle with same-sex attraction by Anne Paulk. Eugene, OR: Harvest House Publishers.

Paulk’s book about women who struggle with same-sex attraction offers insight into the heart of this issue, as seen from a conservative Christian perspective. Additionally, she answers frequently-asked questions about what it means to live for Christ with our sexuality.