Title IX and Cedarville University

Going From 0-60: Gets Too Serious Too Fast

What it can look like:

• Becomes emotionally intense too quickly
• Wants to hang out every day or multiple times a week when you first meet
• Flatters you excessively
• Sends too many gifts or does an immense amount of other seemingly gracious things at the beginning of a relationship
• Talks about marriage or how you are the "right one" too early in the relationship

Jealousy and Isolation

What it can look like:

• Accuses you of flirting or cheating
• Doesn’t want to "share" you with friends or family
• Gets angry if he/she sees you talking with another person
• Insults or puts down people you care about
• Tells you who you can spend time with

Control:

What it can look like:

• Has a skewed sense of headship and submission; expects you to be submissive to him
• Tries to control what you do and whom you see
• Tells you how to dress or act
• Checks your phone or computer

When "Checking In" becomes Harassment:

What it can look like:

• Calls or texts dozens of times to see what you are doing and who you are with
• Calls, texts, or visits you at work when they know it’s not allowed
• Shows up at your dorm / apartment unannounced
• Expects you to check in with them frequently

Emotionally / Verbally Puts You Down:

What it can look like:

• Ridicules your ideas
• Tells you to shut up
• Tells you that you are dumb, stupid, fat, etc.
• Tells you that you will never find someone else who wants you
• Compares you to a former girlfriend or boyfriend

Any Form of Physical Violence or Intimidation:

What it can look like:

• Breaks or throws things when you argue
• Uses their physical size/presence to intimidate or stand over you
• Pressures you into sexual activity with which you are not comfortable
• Threatens to harm self if you break up with them
• Is physically rough with you (pushes, shoves, pulls, yank, squeezes, restrains)